Wisdom Vine

Your Body Language is revealing your deepest secrets!

Communication has got to do with a lot more than the words we speak. And one of the most important non-verbal clues is body language. There are a few non-verbal communication cues that we cannot control but they say a lot about what a person is trying to convey. So let’s jump in to see how you can use body language to create the right impression.


A firm handshake conveys a sign of confidence. A handshake is one of the first impressions we get of someone. A nice, firm handshake implies that a person is confident and outgoing. A limp handshake could imply the exact opposite of this. If you drop out your hand too quickly, it could be taken as a sign of shyness. Mind you, we’re saying firm, not bone-crushing! You don’t want to leave the other person in pain and confused about why you want to hurt them. Remember, a handshake and the first impression go hand-in-hand, literally.

Crossing your arms

Talking to someone with arms crossed could give out a sign of being a closed person, someone who’s not open to communication. Others may also take it as a sign of you being anxious or lacking confidence. Let your arms fall to your side when you are conversing. This will give people the impression of you being more approachable and open to communication. At times, a ‘cross-arm’ cue could also convey arrogance or overconfidence. Always better to have your arms by your side, or on your lap, if you’re sitting, instead!


A person’s posture can tell a lot about their personality and how they feel about something. An open posture, that is, keeping the trunk of the body open coveys friendliness and an ‘open-to-talk’ attitude. A closed posture, where a person tries to hide the trunk of their body either by crossing their arms or a slumped posture may convey hostility or a ‘not keen to talk’ attitude. Posture also has to do with how you sit, stand and walk. Sitting slouched over signifies dejection, or a lack in confidence. SItting sprawled out might be misconstrued as arrogance in a formal situation. Standing with your shoulders thrown back isn’t just great for your spine- it’s great body language too. 

Eye Contact

When we try to avoid eye contact while speaking, we tend to come across as shy or under confident. It’s an important non-verbal cue of communication that says a lot about an individual’s personality. Always maintaining eye contact while speaking is the key to come across as friendly and a confident individual. It also conveys that a person is attentive and focused while communicating. It’s a  vital non-verbal cue.

Tapping your feet while sitting

If you do this often, people might think of you as someone who is impatient or someone who is nervous. This, in turn, might make others uncomfortable while talking to you – they may think you are preoccupied or are inattentive to the person in front of you. The best way to avoid this is by simply being aware of the times you tend to do it. Shifting your position to a more comfortable or moving your feet slightly might help you curb this habit. 


This might seem like a rather obvious one- but you’d be surprised by the number of times we forget to employ this rather simple tool. Smile often, smile while making eye contact and smile whole heartedly. It reflects positivity and happiness- both qualities that people love to have around them. 

Body language often gives out signals of our thought process or frame of mind, that we may not realise we’re giving out. . Sticking to the right non-verbal cues will help you communicate better and make others want to talk to you. Remember, your body language can speak volumes about you – even if you don’t utter a single word!

Priyajit Marwah

Author: Priyajit Marwah

Graduate from NMIMS University, Mumbai. An avid reader, a sports enthusiast with a flair for voiceovers and voice acting, I've been a theatre artist and have a good amount of experience working as a Digital Marketer! Part of Digital Marketing & SEO @ Lido Learning!

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