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15 Foods that Boost your Brain Power

Whether it’s paying attention in class or prepping for a test, it is essential for children to be alert and to be at peak brainpower, for them to do well. While there are a lot of factors affecting their performance, like adequate sleep and physical activity, recent studies have shown that certain foods can actually help boost your brain power!

Also read: 6 Traditional foods that are packed with nutrition

Our brains are actually pretty energy-hungry – they consume as much as 20% of our body’s calories. We need to provide it with the right kind of nutrients to keep it alert and active throughout the day. Here are 15 food that can help us do that: 

1.Fatty fish

Did you know that about 60% of your brain is made of fat? About half of that fat is comprised of Omega-3 Fatty acids. Omega 3 fatty acids are known to have many health benefits for both your brain and body. A recent study showed that people with high levels of Omega 3 had increased blood flow to the brain. 

Fatty fish like Mackerel, salmon, tuna, herring and sardines are a great source of Omega 3. Ideally, nutritionists recommend two servings of oily fish a week in your diet.

2. Seeds

Seeds like Flax, Chia and Pumpkin are incredibly nutritious. They’re packed with magnesium, selenium, manganese and a great source of fibre, not to mention, some of that Omega 3 goodness! 

A higher overall intake of seeds has also been linked to better brain function as we grow older.- so this might be a good time for the whole family to start incorporating these into your diet!

3. Walnuts

We’re looking at the brain-shaped nut for some superpowers- and it doesn’t disappoint! Most nuts are an excellent source of proteins and fats, but the walnut, in particular, also improves memory. They’re also a great source of vitamin E, which helps slow down mental decline.  Make sure not to remove the skin – that’s where most of the nutrition lies to boost your brain power. 

4. Soybeans

Another source of good dietary fibre, antioxidants and phytonutrients that are linked to various health benefits are soybeans and soybean products. It is also one of the best sources of plant-based protein. 

The nutrient content of soy foods is linked to improvements in cognitive and memory functions for superior retention. Soybean is also known to significantly reduce cardiovascular disease and lower cholesterol levels. 

These beans are used heavily in south Asian cooking, as the whole bean, soy flour, tofu and soybean oil. 

5. Blueberries

A 2011 study by Tufts University in the United States suggested that blueberries boosts the short-term memory of the brain. Including blueberries in your diet can not only be great for your brain but is also shown to have an impact on improved muscle function. That’s because many naturally purple-coloured foods contain anthocyanins, which scientists are now touting as a ‘superfood’

6. Eggs

Eggs are vitamin B-rich – which plays an important part in regulating brain function. Choline, which is present in egg yolk, is essential for the memory-boosting brain chemical, acetylcholine. 

Including eggs as part of your regular breakfast plan provides a great, brain-boosting start to your child’s day!

7. Spinach

Popeye might not have been too far off the mark with his spinach-eating superpowers! This leafy vegetable packs a mean punch with high amounts of carotenoids, vitamin C, vitamin K, folic acid, iron, and calcium.

Eating spinach benefits eye health and reduces stress- both of which are essential, especially during these times. 

8. Turmeric

This deep-yellow spice is a staple in every Indian household, and has a number ingretdiests that boost bain power! Curcumin- that’s the active ingredient in turmeric, has been shown to cross the blood-brain barrier, meaning it can directly enter the brain and benefit the cells there. 

It is supposed to help memory, ease depression, and even help new brain cells grow! 

9. Broccoli

Broccoli, Kale and other leafy greens may not be very popular with the children, but they’re an absolute must in your brain-food diet. They’re rich in brain-healthy nutrients like Lutein, vitamin K, beta-carotene and folate. 

A leafy vegetable diet has been shown to slow down cognitive decline. 

10. Dark chocolate

From the supremely unpopular to the very popular – here’s something that your children should have no trouble accepting on their plate- chocolate!

Dark chocolate contains flavonoids- which are a type of antioxidant. Antioxidants are especially beneficial to brain health as they reduce oxidative stress on the brain. It also has natural stimulants like caffeine, which help you keep alert and active!

11. Oranges

This might seem like a strange addition to the brain-food list. We all know the benefits of oranges to keep illnesses at bay, but the same vitamins (vitamins B & C) help with keeping our nervous system healthy. Oranges are also rich in flavonoids, with those stress-relieving properties we were talking about! 

A clinical study in healthy older adults reported that adults who consumed 100% orange juice scored better on combined tests for global cognitive function compared to the control group

12. Whole grains

Like we mentioned earlier, our brains need a lot of energy to function efficiently. But they need to be provided with that energy slowly and steadily. That’s why foods with a low Glycemic Index are great brain foods. Whole grains release their energy slowly into the bloodstream, thus feeding your brain steadily for much longer. They’re also a good source of vitamin E. 

13. Tomatoes

Evidence suggested that the antioxidant found in tomatoes- lycopene, protects against free-radical damage to cells that occur during Dementia and Alzheimer’s. In addition, lycopene also regulates genes that influence inflammation and brain growth.

The best way to help your body absorb the nutrients from tomatoes is to cook them down – it concentrates the lycopenes – and always leave the skin on!

14. Black currants

Black currants are a great source of vitamin C, which helps with managing stress and anxiety. Studies conducted by Northumbria University, UK also showed that blackcurrant juice improved attention and mood and reduced mental fatigue.

15. Avocados

Avocados contain the ‘right fats’ – meaning they’re a source of monounsaturated fats. These are vital for brain growth during childhood. It helps reduce blood pressure and lowers the risk of cognitive decline. It’s packed with over 20 vitamins and nutrients and could help prevent childhood obesity since it satisfies your child’s hunger for longer. 

These foods, when included as part of a balanced diet are a great way to ensure the brain health of your child- but it is important to combine these with healthy lifestyle habits to reap its benefits. Eating too much or too little can also have a detrimental effect on your focus and attention. Make sure your body is well-rested and fit enough for it to help your brain perform at peak capacity on your big day!

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Helping Your Children Study – Practical Dos and Don’ts

Tests and exams are an integral part of your child’s education. Most schools begin formal testing by Grade 4, but informal class assessments begin much earlier. It’s important to make sure that your child prepares well, so they aren’t worried or stressed out about their performance in these assessments. 

As parents, we want what’s best for our children but we sometimes go about it the wrong way. Incorrect study habits may often undermine your child’s effort, and could even put them off studying for good. 

We’ve come up with some of the most common mistakes parents tend to make, so you don’t inadvertently end up making them! 

1. Don’t do their homework for them

How often has your child come to you at the last minute, for a project or submission that’s due the next day? There’s the usual cycle of yelling (you) – tears (them) – begging (them) and caving (you)

You give in and stay up late into the night to create something your child was supposed to do. Don’t. It’s natural that you’re tempted to do so – we want our children to succeed, and don’t want them to be distressed about it. But when you do the homework for them, you’re not allowing them to challenge themselves, to be able to learn for themselves. 

Here’s what you can do instead: remind them to start off well in time the next time, and reassure them that they are capable of doing the work. Lastly, reassure them that when they’re graded for the project, you’ll be proud of the effort they’ve invested. 

You might want to read: Parents, Homework & The Fun Way Out

2. Don’t bribe them

Motivating children with a reward is great they’re reaching for something that is much above their current level – but paying them for just doing regular homework or schoolwork is a slippery slope. What you can do instead is appreciate consistent effort, which can add up to a reward. That’s why a points system or a reward chart works better because you need to stick with the work to see results. The Lido Gems Store works on this principle – children need to show consistent positive behaviour to claim rewards from the Gems Store. The more consistent they are, the better the rewards!

3. It’s never a good idea to use threats

Fear is never a good motivator in the long run – the emotional scarring it leaves on the child is far more damaging than any short term benefits you might see. The American Academy of Pediatrics strengthened its advice against corporal punishment in updated guidelines, saying it makes kids more aggressive and raises the risk of mental health issues. 

Children who are stressed often perform more poorly than those who are confident. Positive comments and getting them the help they need, either in the form of extra lessons or just taking them through the concept again might work better. 

4. Each child is different

The VARK model of learning styles suggests that there are four main types of learners: visual, auditory, reading/writing, and kinesthetic. Most children are a combination of these four styles, but more times than not, they have a predominant style of learning. Each of these styles has a complementary way of teaching. 

Recognise the unique strengths of your child. Different children absorb information in a variety of ways – some respond to visual cues, while others might find it easier when they’re actually doing the problem or experimenting themselves. Just because a particular method works for your friend’s child, doesn’t mean it will fit your child’s learning style. Focussing on their strengths rather than force-fitting them into a particular regime is what will give you results. Get your child’s buy-in with whatever method you go for. 

5. Don’t skip PTMs

With busy lives juggling home and work schedules, PTMs may be the least favourite thing on your to-do list. But it’s important for you to know your child’s tutors. While you will get an overview of your child’s development in a learning environment, the teacher gets to know a bit about your child at home, so they can get the best out of your child. You know your child best, and you may provide them with insights to help get through to your child in class. And once your child sees that you and their tutor are a unit that is working together, they’re far more likely to settle down and hit the books. That’s why at Lido, we make sure we conduct regular PTMs with your child’s tutor so you know how your child is progressing.

6. Sleep is more important than you think

Your body and brain need sleep to perform at peak condition. During sleep, the brain sorts through and stores information and even solves problems! 

Most children don’t get enough sleep. Especially when they try to cram information the day before a big exam or test. According to the National Sleep Foundation, children from 5 through 12 need about 9-11  hours of sleep in a day to feel well-rested. If you want your child to do well on exam day, make sure they’re getting to bed early. This will also help them feel more relaxed.

Also read: Is your child getting enough sleep?

7. Don’t stop sports/physical activities

One of the first things we tend to do is cut back on children’s playtime/ physical activity time when exams approach. But multiple studies have shown that physical activity in children actually helps improve their academic performance. In 2013, a longitudinal study conducted by the BBC showed links between exercise and exam success in English, Maths and Science. 

Exercise helps oxygenate the brain, relieve stress, and thus helps children study more efficiently. 

The trick is to do a little bit, but more often. Incorporate little breaks between study hours where children can indulge in a bit of running around or a quick game of table tennis!

8. Don’t discourage their passions/ interests

When we perceive our children’s interest coming in the way of their actual study time, we promptly shut it down. ‘No more video gaming until after the exams!’ or ‘We’ll join football again after these tests!’ – sound familiar? We’ve all been guilty of doing that at some point. But your child will never be able to discover their true passions if we’re going to constantly put a stop to what they clearly enjoy doing. Now, don’t get us wrong, we’re not advocating doing these activities at the cost of academics, but perhaps, again, small intervals, to help them recharge their batteries? You’ll find a child that is far more focussed sharp. 

9. Not having a fixed schedule

Clearly, if we’re to fit all of the above into a child’s day, you need to have a schedule/timetable. Schedules also help a child get more organised and not lose track of time when they’re doing an activity. Your schedule can be loosely defined or charted in detail, depending on the age and ability of your child. It’s important that your child is involved while creating this schedule. They are far more willing to follow a schedule that has taken their views into consideration. 

If they haven’t been following any routine, you may find that your child is struggling with the schedule initially. Set up alarms to go off at the end of an activity or interval, so they are able to stick to the plan. Don’t forget to pencil in time for their ‘fun activity’ or ‘down time’ in the day. 

Every child learns and progresses at their own pace, but know that they will get there in the end. Allow for a few misses along the way-  they will learn from those too. As parents, our job is to be enablers for our children, to help them with the tools that are needed to succeed. And above all, to listen and understand what they need to achieve their dreams. 

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20 Habits of Successful Leaders

What is the difference between a successful leader and someone seemingly lacking the ability to lead? Do you think it’s a tragic flaw in fate, or perhaps, the absence of aptitude? Well, if you asked us our answer would be…neither! Successful leaders aren’t born, they’re created, and what goes behind the results we see and admire, is a lot of discipline and commitment to certain regular habits. 

You see, at the end of the day, we’re all creatures of habit. There isn’t a motivator as powerful in the realm of human behaviour, as established habits. Anybody trying to cut out junk from their usual diet or start consistently exercising would know, falling prey to old habits is a lot more likely than motivational books would lead us to believe. In that sense, habits are like subconscious background elements which, often without our awareness, impact what we do and how we behave. Not to mention, the habits we engage in everyday, compound over time to produce consequences. Whether these consequences add to your success or make achieving your goals all the more challenging, is entirely dependent on the kinds of habits you choose to build. 

So, when it comes to examining what led to someone becoming a successful leader, good habits will always be at the forefront of the answer. Effective leaders don’t transform into high achievers overnight. Instead, they perform a certain behaviour at a certain time every day, and therefore build a foundation of solid beneficial habits. After a point, they don’t even have to muster the motivation to perform these actions regularly. These become so ingrained in their everyday routine, that it feels unnatural to skip a day! 

If you’re looking for ideas to hone your leadership skills and become a highly efficient individual, start by reading about these 20 habits common in the lives of most successful leaders.

1. Wake up at a fixed time 

When you wake up at a particular time every morning, you’re strengthening your body’s natural sleep-wake cycle, also known as the circadian rhythm. It leads to both better quality of sleep at night and more wakefulness when you get out of bed. This fixed time sets the stage for a more structured day!
According to a Time profile written by Lev Grossman in 2012, Apple CEO Tim Cook wakes up at 3:45 AM every single day. Lido’s own CEO Sahil Sheth, wakes up like clockwork sharp at 4 AM every morning!

2. Establish a morning routine

What you do in the morning sets the tone for the rest of your day. Successful leaders are well aware of this fact, which is why they establish a sturdy morning routine. Your morning routine can be as simple or elaborate as you’d like. But the idea is to control your schedule from the moment you wake up, instead of your schedule assuming control of you. 

Shashank ND, Co-founder and CEO of Practo, follows a productive morning routine to get a headstart on his day’s agenda. He wakes up at 4 AM every morning followed by tackling emails and planning the day ahead, first thing. After this, he heads for his morning workout, which can be a visit to the gym, a run, swimming or a game of squash. After exercise and breakfast, he reaches the office by 9 AM. 

3. Organise the day before it begins  

All successful leaders plan their day before beginning with their tasks. This habit also ties up with the last point we made, about you being in control of your schedule. When you create a blueprint of everything you need to get done in a day, you’re much more likely to stay on track and get around to achieving them, instead of getting distracted and spending time on irrelevant things. 

Leo Babauta, author of the bestselling book Zen Habits, wakes up and drinks water first thing, immediately after which he writes down the 3 most important things (MIT) on his plate in the day. 

4. Prioritise your tasks 

When you write down your plan for the day, you’ll notice that certain tasks are more crucial to be completed than the rest. Prioritise these! Leaders have several things they need to get done in a day, but they manage their time by prioritising the most important and challenging tasks first. This ensures that they don’t spend too much time on insignificant tasks and have pending work pile up! 

5. Clearly define your goals  

Successful leaders set out to achieve certain goals every day. While they certainly have a schedule guiding their behaviour, they tweak this schedule to attain the objectives of the day. For a student, these goals can be reading 2 chapters or solving 2 sets of problems, but identifying the goals you want to work on each day is crucial to make sure you stay on track, AND have a measure to track your progress. 

6. Read a wide range of books 

Reading is always going to be one of the most effective habits for success. Bill Gates, Co-founder of Microsoft, reads 50 books a year. Talking about his habit of reading different kinds of books with Inc media, Gates shared that while he can travel anywhere and meet with anyone, reading is still the main way that he learns new things and tests his understanding. 

7. Move your body

Every successful leader in the world makes it a practice to take diligent care of his or her body. This includes getting as much movement in a day as their schedule allows. In an interview with People magazine, Oprah Winfrey said “I try to do something every day that allows me to feel active,” Jack Dorsey, CEO of Twitter and Square, considers exercise a way to get more out of his already packed schedule.

8. Fuel your body 

Just as important as getting exercise regularly, is giving your body the nutrition it needs to stay charged through the day. John Mackey, Founder & CEO of Whole Foods Market, has maintained a 100% plant based diet for 14 years. He sticks by 2 maxims for his daily nutrition – eat real food instead of processed food, and consume a whole lot of vegetables, fruits, beans, nuts, whole grains, and seeds.

9. Keep learning 

Another point of commonality between successful leaders is that they believe in continued regular learning, regardless of the heights they achieve in their lives. Whether it’s from a friend, a tutor, or even the internet, maintaining a learning mindset will help you strengthen existing skills and build a diverse set of abilities. It also expands your knowledge of the world around you!
Laura Roeder, founder of MeetEdgar, begins every day by listening to podcasts on a variety of subjects while preparing her breakfast. This allows her to both tackle an important chore, and learn something new during it!

10. Track your thoughts

Most successful leaders firmly believe in the power of reflecting and writing down their thoughts. And the most commonly used tool for doing so, is maintaining a journal. When you make it a habit to track your thoughts and emotions in a journal or diary, it becomes much easier to keep track of both the progress you’ve made, and the struggles you’ve been through. It helps you strategize, plan ahead, and keep your mind healthy.
In a 2012 interview on his designation as Time’s “Person of the Year” Barack Obama said “In my life, writing has been an important exercise to clarify what I believe, what I see, what I care about, what my deepest values are. The process of converting a jumble of thoughts into coherent sentences makes you ask tougher questions.”

11. Challenge yourself 

Great leaders believe in consistently challenging themselves. That could be by way of taking risks, tackling difficult projects, or trying to learn new skills. But the practice of exercising their brain muscles and broadening their knowledge by taking on new challenges is a must for continued learning.
Michael Clemons, the former football star and current vice-chair of the CFL’s Toronto Argonauts, talking about his natural drive to continue learning famously quoted “I am my greatest challenge.”. 

12. Limit entertainment and social media

As one can imagine, nearly all successful leaders abstain from activities meant purely for entertainment like watching TV or scrolling through social media, at least until they’ve completed everything they set out to get done in a day. It all ties up with prioritising your activities. If you want to learn from the greatest leaders of the world, limit all forms of entertainment to the end of the day. Otherwise, 20 minutes of social media is quick to turn into 2 hours of scrolling, and the next thing you know, you’re left with a long list of pending tasks fighting for your time and attention!

13. Take initiative AND accountability

Another habit most successful leaders have in common? They tend to take initiative as well as responsibility! They learn what they need to do, come up with innovative ideas, and do things without being asked!
Equally important is taking accountability.

The Chairman of the Godrej Group, Adi Godrej, led the company through the Indian economy before it was liberalized, by taking both initiative and accountability. He has organized and updated the management set-ups in the company and reformed organizational policies to deal with the new challenges.

14. Express gratitude

While successful leaders continue to reach for new heights in their professional journey, they also take the time to reflect and express gratitude for all that they have. Take your cue from Hillel Fuld, Israel’s mega-successful tech blogger and startup advisor. Every day, Fuld lists ten things he is grateful for and publishes this gratitude list on his Facebook profile, to encourage his followers to make their own thankful list!

15. Respond, don’t react

The difference between reacting and responding is crystal clear to great leaders. In any interaction, you have the choice of either instinctively expressing the first thought to pop into your head, or coming up with a reply after thoughtfully considering the outcome of your response. 

In 1997, Starbucks faced a crisis situation when 3 of its employees were killed in a tragic robbery in Washington DC. Instead of reacting to this PR nightmare by distancing himself, CEO Howard Schultz thoughtfully responded by flying straight to D.C. and spending a week with the co-workers and families of these victims. 

16. Listen Actively 

Most of us listen to respond, instead of trying to fully understand what the other person is communicating. But successful leaders are well-aware of the importance of active listening. Which is why, many of them go to great lengths to make those around them feel heard.
Jim Sinegal, CEO of Costco, told that he moved his desk to the middle of an office hallway so it’s easy for any employee in the building to talk to him!

17. Meditate

Taking the time each day to connect with your thoughts and stabilise your mind is absolutely essential, especially when you always have your hands full as a leader. Most successful leaders of the world take a few minutes out of their day to introspect and meditate. A regular meditation habit makes you mentally equipped to deal with unexpected challenges and resolve problems. 

Padmasree Warrior, the Chief Technology and Strategy Office of Cicso Systems, blocks 20 minutes every evening to practice meditation. Jack Dorsey, Co-founder & CEO of Twitter has maintained a meditation habit for 20 years! 

18. Summarize the day 

As important as planning your day first thing in the morning, is tracking your progress on everything you’d set out to achieve, at the end of the day. For successful leaders, it’s not sufficient to just list tasks, they need to check-in and keep tabs on the ones completed, the ones done halfway, and the ones to be pushed to tomorrow. 

Before leaving the office each night, Kenneth Chenault, CEO of American Express, takes time to reflect and write down three things that he wants to accomplish the next day.

19. Set aside time for hobbies 

Successful leaders lead well-rounded lives, despite dealing with a busier schedule than most others. They take out the time to engage in an activity they truly enjoy, practice an old hobby or cultivate a new one. This helps them avoid reaching a point of saturation and refuels their energy for the following day! 

Oprah Winfrey enjoys reading, while Bill Gates likes to play Bridge in his free time! 

20. Remember to relax!

Last but by no means the least, most successful leaders accord equal importance to a relaxing wind-down routine, as they do to a productive morning routine. If you want to be as productive as the most successful leaders in the world, remember to give your mind the rest it needs to work. 

Tim Armstrong, CEO of AOL, sets a hard-limit to working. After arriving home from the office at around 8 PM in the evening, Armstrong spends time reading to his daughters. Vijay Shekhar Sharma, Chairman & Managing Director of Paytm, listens to music to relax and mostly falls asleep listening to western classical music.

So, there you have it! These are the 20 habits most successful people have adopted in their lives. Learn from these leaders and their remarkable triumphs, by adopting these habits in your daily routine, one behaviour at a time. And remember, consistency will always be the key! 

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Your Parenting Style & How It Shapes Your Child

Have you ever wondered what kind of parent you are? No, we aren’t talking in the sense of absolute adjectives like good or bad. In fact, we aren’t referring to any kind of judgement at all. We are hinting at something very specific. To be clear, we’re asking you if you have identified your parenting style from the 4 types, as first proposed by psychologist Diana Baumrind in the 1960s. 

But before we get to discussing these parenting styles, let’s talk a bit about why it’s important at all. Your parenting style represents the nature of strategies you use while raising your child. For instance, you could be a strict parent and keen on enforcing certain rules at all times. Or, you could be democratic with your decision-making, explaining why a rule exists and trying to understand your child’s opinion on it. Your style of parenting exerts an influence on pretty much every quality of your child, from their personality traits to how they feel about themselves. The manner in which you interact with and discipline your child, will affect their behaviour in both childhood and adulthood.

For example, children of uninvolved parents have been observed to struggle with controlling their emotions, practice less effective coping strategies and face difficulty with maintaining or nurturing social relationships (Nijhof & Engels, 2007).

Now with that out of the way, let’s come to the 4 parenting styles widely recognised by developmental psychologists, and discuss how each affects a child’s growth. 

1. Authoritarian Parenting 

This style is largely parent-driven. In Authoritarian parenting children are expected to consistently abide by the rules set out by their parents. Failure to do so, is met by punishment. The parents’ attitude can be best summed up as “it’s my way, or the highway”. 

Characteristics of Authoritarian parenting: 

  1. Strict discipline style with little negotiation possible. Punishment is common
  2. Communication is mostly one way: from parent to child
  3. Expectations are high with limited flexibility
  4. “Because I said so” is a frequent response by the parents 

Authoritarian parenting has been associated with child outcomes such as hostility, delinquency, rebelliousness, and antisocial aggression. 

Baumrind, 1991

Children with Authoritarian parents have been observed to: 

  • Be less independent 
  • Display an unhappy nature
  • Have poor self-esteem 
  • Exhibit poor social skills 

If you recognise authoritarian to be your parenting style, and would like to move closer to an authoritative parenting style instead, here are some tips you should consider: 

  1. Validate your child’s emotions. Help your child label an emotion, understand where it came from, and recognise the emotion’s effect on behaviour. Try swapping reponses like “it’s no big deal” and “there’s no reason to get upset” with validating phrases like “I understand why you’re feeling upset right now”. This will help strengthen your child’s emotional intelligence, both now and later in life. 
  2. Establish rules but explain the logic behind them. If your child’s bedtime is at 9 PM, explain why that is the case. When your child understands the underlying reasons behind your rules, they will be more likely to follow rules when you aren’t there to enforce them.
  3. Use incentives along with punishment. It’s important to teach your child about the consequences of behaviour, but in both directions! If you’re only using punishments and no rewards, your child may understand the effects of bad behaviour, but not that of positive steps or habits. 

2. Authoritative Parenting 

Like authoritarian parents, there are rules and norms established by the parents in authoritative parenting. However, this parenting style is much more democratic than the former. While they set up rules, and clarify the consequences of breaking them, authoritative parents also take their children’s feelings into account. They are responsive, willing to answer questions, and make use of positive discipline strategies to reinforce good behavior, like praise and reward systems.

Characteristics of authoritative parenting: 

  1. Set rules and enforce boundaries through open discussions, by providing guidance, and using reasoning
  2. Expectations and goals are high but stated clearly with room for flexibility 
  3. Supportive instead of punitive disciplinary techniques are used
  4. Frequent and empathetic communication

Authoritative parenting has been associated with greater child competence, exceptional maturity, assertiveness, and self-control. 

Baumrind, 1991

Children with authoritative parents have been observed to: 

  1. Have a happy & content nature
  2. Be more independent and assertive 
  3. Develop strong self-esteem and belief in own abilities 
  4. Interact with their peers with healthy social skills 

3. Permissive Parenting

Also known as indulgent parenting, the permissive parenting style consists of low control and high warmth. Permissive parents don’t demand much from their children and tend to be forgiving. They rarely discipline their children, or consistently enforce rules and boundaries. They are nurturing and believe in acting as friends instead of guardians of their children. 

Characteristics of permissive parenting: 

  1. Non-traditional and lenient
  2. Limited or no rules. The parents may use consequences, but they rarely stick to those
  3. Open communication, with the parents letting their children decide for themselves rather than giving direction
  4. Go to great lengths to keep the children happy, sometimes at their own expense 

Research has found links between the excessive parental indulgence often found in permissive parenting practices, and children’s decreased social competence and academic achievement.

Chen et al., 2000

Children with permissive parents have been observed to: 

  1. Be unable to follow rules 
  2. Exhibit poor self-control 
  3. Have egocentric tendencies
  4. Have low self-esteem and display behavioural problems 

4. Uninvolved Parenting

As the name suggests, this parenting style is associated with detachment and lack of involvement from the parents. Uninvolved parents have little information about their children or their lives, and exhibit disinterest in being a parent. They tend to be neglectful of or indifferent to their children’s needs, feelings and demands. 

Characteristics of uninvolved parenting: 

  1. No discipline style is used, children are free to do what they want 
  2. The parents offer little nurturance, guidance and attention
  3. Limited or passive communication
  4. Little to no expectations from the child 

Adolescents who are exposed to uninvolved parenting practices often perceive high levels of rejection and tend to display more aggressive behaviors, delinquent behaviors, hostility, and attention problems.

Ruchkin et al., 1998; Meesters et al., 1995; & Barnow et al., 2002

The effects of uninvolved parenting have also been seen to persist through adolescence and into adulthood.

Nijhof & Engles, 2007

Children with uninvolved parents have been observed to: 

  1. Be more impulsive and unable to exercise self-control 
  2. Turn to aggressive or destructive behaviours instead of regulating their emotions 
  3. Have brittle self-esteem and be sensitive to rejection 
  4. Be more likely to develop mental health concerns 

So, we’ve spoken about the different styles of parenting and how each style impacts children. Which brings us to the golden question our readers may be itching to ask……which is the best parenting style? 

Well, to put it simply, it depends. Since this theory of parenting styles first emerged, research has consistently linked authoritative parenting style with the most positive outcomes in children. Because the parents use reasoning and logic to explain why rules must be followed, practice two-way clear communication, and put effort into nurturing a positive relationship, the children are much more likely to internalise these lessons and develop a solid sense of right and wrong. That being said, factors like cultural and economic conditions, peer groups, and the child’s temperament also influence the outcome of a parenting style. Two parents with differing or contradictory parenting styles can lead to mixed signals and confusion. 

So, generally speaking, it’s advisable for parents to adopt an authoritative parenting style, while ensuring the style remains consistent between the parents. You can also tweak a style to fit your preferences, for instance, parents are increasingly adding a few elements of permissive parenting like focus on independence, to an overall authoritative style. We think the best course of action as a parent is to display all the values and habits you’d want your children to embody, yourself!

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6 Thoughtful Ways You Can Appreciate Your Teachers

Teachers are the backbone of our society. They always have been, and always will be. With their patient guidance and unending support, teachers play such a critical role in shaping young lives. They help students first identify, and then walk along, the right path to success. Our teachers help us figure out the passion we’d like to chase for the rest of our lives, along with all the milestones we need to cross to get there. They infuse our lives with knowledge, values, and positive habits.

All this to say, our teachers deserve to know how much we appreciate everything they do for us. We need to remind them that the difference they make to so many different lives is absolutely unmatched. And what better occasion than a special day dedicated to teachers, to express our love and gratitude to them? Read on, for we’ve listed 10 thoughtful ideas to appreciate your teachers.

1. Write a thank-you email for your teacher

If you find it a challenge to tell your teacher verbally what they mean to you, just put it down on an email! Take your time to frame this thank-you email. Include your favourite moments you shared with your teacher along with examples of how they helped you grow. Be honest, and list the qualities you admire in them. You can write about anything, really! Send the email and we assure you that it will make your teacher grin with joy

2. Compile recordings of students saying thank you

This is a very meaningful Teachers Day gift that costs a grand total of 0 rupees! Ask your classmates to thank their teacher by recording a single sentence of appreciation. Compile all the recordings you receive from your friends into one touching audio. Send it across to your teacher and wait for the happy tears!

3. Write a poem dedicated to your teacher

Did your teacher inspire a love for language in you? Then thank them with the skills you learnt from them! A fantastic way to appreciate your teacher is to write a poem dedicated to just them. You can use poetry to talk about all that you love about your teacher, and at the same time showcase your growth in the department as their student.

4. Volunteer to mind the class for them

More often than not, gestures do a better job at conveying your gratitude than tangible gifts. One such gesture of appreciation from you can be the offer to volunteer. Volunteer to mind the class, to upload a class assignment, or perhaps, to navigate a PPT for them. In this case, it’s truly the thought that counts!

5. Surprise your teacher by dressing up like them

You admire your teacher and would love to grow up to be like them. Then why not demonstrate your appreciation? Dress exactly how your Teacher does everyday, on the occasion of Teachers Day (check with your school first!) and show up to class. Watch as they notice and begin to beam! Follow that up by listing all the positive qualities of your teacher, you wish to instill in yourself.

6. Send an e-gift card!

Lastly, if you want to present your teacher with an awesome gift as a token of your appreciation, opt for an e-gift card! Is your teacher fond of shoes? Are they avid readers with a giant collection of stationery? Just pick a brand you think would appeal to your teacher and surprise them with an e-gift card. Disclaimer, remember to first take permission from your parents!

Phew! Well, that was easier than you thought, right? With a simple gesture of appreciation, you can brighten your teacher’s day almost instantly! So, how about starting now?